BIBZ - intricacies of life!

Love at first sight. Ever felt a
smile crossing across your face when a face breezes by you? And then everything
changes. The world seems more beautiful, the weather seems to be perfect and
everything seems to be where at they are. It’s as if you’re in some place you don’t
want to leave. Adrenaline rushes in you. Blood spurts out of your veins and the
heart… the heart pounds stronger this time. You can clearly hear it even though
the music is trying to tear out the place where you are standing. You’re trying
to do something but you don’t seem to get anything done and every moment her
face just draws a good picture in nothingness.

Is it really love that you’re
feeling?! You’re not sure. You don’t know. 

You never planned it. You did not
ask for it. You did not even want anyone to hound your thoughts every millisecond in the
first place. It is simply saying that it just came when you never expected it though
I am sure that you had hoped for it. After all, isn’t love the key to optimum
happiness? Love… It makes people tick in so many ways like it pushes us normal
mortals beyond our limit. It causes us to break, reshape our inner selves, take
risks, and even adapt in ways that many other living being weren’t innate to
do. It is how He created us - - To love and be loved.

Now, you tend to become more
observant trying to notice every bit of her even the slightest gestures. How sweetly
she talks? How gracefully she walks? How she throws those beautiful smiles at
you?! It just completes your day. She’s like a treasure that you found in the
depth of sea when you submerged yourself to her. A dream you never exactly hoped to
achieve yet she’s standing in front of you. An experience so close yet so far
that has branded itself upon your life. 

You feel all of this and more. You’ll
feel that it leads you closer to the future - - that you both fit together in
so many ways possible. 

But you’re not sure of that. 

It is just simply love at first sight!

Having a successful relationship is like driving
a car at night. You can only see as far as your headlights shine up ahead, and
you can make the entire trip that way. When you see a bump in the road or have
to take a detour just to avoid a major disagreement, you simply make a mutually
beneficial adjustment and keep on going.

We all need to go through the ups and downs,
experience the traumas and revel in the successes of the relationship in order
to grow. It is just the way to get there.

Now, when the relationship is strained, it is
sometimes difficult to be ourselves. There are times that you may feel that if
you don’t do what she wants you to do, she will be upset and become even more
distant. This is where agreements are important. We need to allow each other to
make our own choices. First for ourselves and then for the relationship.

We should definitely give each other a room to
grow. No one can grow in the shade. If you are always hovering at each other, you are literally smothering the love that could be yours. It tires us
down and we just have to shout for space!

There are just times that you will need to sit
down and have some time to be alone with your thoughts.

Even though it may appear that you are both from
different planets because you share so little in your communication, it is
possible for you to lay down your guns. Seek peace and choose to travel in the
same orbit. Working together to identify your differences benefits a good
relationship. Always remember: If God brings you to it, He will bring you
through it!